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Hopelessness to Happiness!

If life could be graded, Anthony would give his an F.

His job is stressful, especially now that he’s working from home all the time.

His teenage daughter is struggling with depression and not being with her friends in school is making it worse.

He and his wife are fighting a lot lately, and he hates himself for the extra 50 pounds he’s carrying, as he’s been eating more being at home and feeling the stress of all the pandemic uncertainties. Whew!

Anthony feels hopeless and his life seems depressing and dark. All the news articles he reads or watches on TV only reinforces his feelings of pessimism and his grim certainty that nothing will ever get better.

Barbara’s struggles seem just as daunting.

Her husband just lost his job, two months after the birth of their first child and amidst the pandemic.

She is responsible for her elderly mother, who is becoming increasingly frail.

To make things worse, her best friend and main support is moving to another state and the landlord just raised the rent by $200.

Despite all this, Barbara gives her life a strong B+ and knows there are some A+ days ahead.

Unlike Anthony, Barbara sees her setbacks as temporary obstacles to be overcome. To her, crises are part of life, opportunities for her to gain in wisdom and courage.

Put simply, some people are optimists and others are pessimists.

However, optimism isn’t an accident—it’s a skill that can be learned, one that can help us feel better, resist depression and greatly improve our lives.

Psychologist, clinical researcher and bestselling author Martin Seligman has spent 25 years studying optimism and pessimism. In his book, Learned Optimism, he states that pessimistic thinking can undermine not just our behavior but our success in all areas of our lives.

“Pessimism is escapable,” he writes. “Pessimists can learn to be optimists.”

By altering our view of our lives, we can actually alter our lives, he says.

First, he says we must recognize our “explanatory style,” which is what we say to ourselves when we experience a setback.

By breaking the “I give up” pattern of thinking and changing our interior negative dialogue, we can encourage what he calls “flexible optimism.”

He believes that focusing on our innate character strengths (wisdom, courage, compassion), rather than our perceived failures, boosts not just our moods, but our immune system.

Research has shown that optimistic people tend to be healthier and experience more success in life; therefore, he encourages parents to develop the patterns of optimism in their children.

Practicing “spiritual optimism” is another way to improve the quality of our lives, writes Joan Borysenko, psychologist, speaker and author of several books, including Fire in the Soul.

She encourages people who experience feelings of despair and hopelessness in times of crises to remember it takes courage to live, and that we can find that courage by facing our fears, finding support and using prayer or meditation.

Similar techniques outlined by Dr. David Burns in his book Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, have been effective in treating depression.

He believes that changing our thinking has a profound effect on our moods, including cases of severe depression. It’s not our lives that depress us, he writes, but our thinking about our lives.

So unless Anthony begins to change his thinking, his life’s outlook may remain bleak and dismal.

Barbara, however, is likely to graduate to even more satisfying and fulfilling years ahead because she believes her life is filled with challenges and opportunities.

Hypnotherapy mind coaching provides a means to tap into your innate wisdom to learn how to be more aware of your pessimistic thinking.

Then, through a more honed in awareness, you can teach yourself how to direct and change your focus to feeling more optimistic and ultimately create a foundation of happiness!

By creating that foundation of happiness or joy, you can navigate life’s ups and downs with a much better operating compass, that will guide you to a much richer perspective of your life!

Check out my free Breakthrough the Challenge of Change to learn more how you can change YOUR perspective and create your “Happiness Foundation!”

 

Jackie Foskett helps professional women who are overwhelmed and anxious to free themselves from that rut, prioritize self-care and reach their goals and dreams through hypnotherapy and mind coaching. She’s a specialist in stress and anxiety relief, weight release, hypnobirthing, medical and dental hypnosis, and mindfulness, as well as a published author. She expertly and caringly guides clients through the terrain of their conscious and subconscious minds to live their best lives ever—in mind, body and spirit. Jackie and her husband, Blaine, live in the beautiful Pacific Northwest, in Washington State, and love to explore the outdoors and travel. Living a balanced life is key to her success!

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