Why Are the Holidays So Stressful?

Before we dive into solutions, let’s take a moment to understand why the holidays often feel more overwhelming than joyful.

High Expectations:

Society sets the bar high. From perfectly decorated homes to Instagram-worthy meals, the pressure to create “the perfect holiday” can feel suffocating.

Overcommitment:

Holiday parties, school events, family traditions—it’s easy to say “yes” to everything, leaving little room for rest or reflection.

Financial Strain:

Gift-giving, travel, and holiday meals can quickly add up, creating financial stress that lingers well into the new year.

Emotional Triggers:

The holidays can bring up feelings of loneliness, grief, or unresolved family tensions, making this “cheerful” season emotionally complicated for many.

Acknowledging these challenges is the first step toward addressing them. Now, let’s explore practical ways to transform your holiday season.

Tip #1: Hit Pause and Ground Yourself

When was the last time you paused to check in with yourself? During the holidays, it’s easy to operate on autopilot, jumping from one task to the next without stopping to breathe. But when you’re constantly “on,” stress builds, and the joy of the season gets lost.

Try this grounding practice:

• Find a quiet moment.

It could be while you’re waiting in line, sitting in your car, or even taking a break in the bathroom (yes, really!).

• Breathe deeply.

Inhale through your nose for a count of 4, and down into your belly. Hold for 4, and exhale through your mouth for 6-8 counts. Repeat this cycle three times, letting your shoulders relax and drop into the frame of your body with each exhale.

• Visualize a calming image.

Imagine yourself in a peaceful setting—perhaps walking through a snowy forest or sitting by a warm fire. Let this image anchor you in the present moment.

• Ask yourself:
• “What’s one thing I can let go of today?”
• “What’s one small thing I can do right now to feel more in control?”

This simple practice takes just a few minutes but can help you reset, refocus, and move through your day with more ease.

Tip #2: Flip the Script on Holiday Overwhelm

Do you feel like your to-do list is running your life? Between gift shopping, party planning, and family obligations, it’s easy to feel like you’re drowning in responsibilities.

But here’s a secret: not everything on your list is essential.

Take control of your to-do list with these steps:

• Write it all down.

Start by listing everything you think you “have” to do. Seeing it on paper can help you feel more organized and less overwhelmed.

• Categorize tasks.

Divide your list into three categories:

• Must-do (e.g., attending a family dinner you’re hosting).
• Nice-to-do (e.g., baking cookies for a neighborhood party).
• Not necessary (e.g., sending handwritten holiday cards if it feels like a chore).
• Delegate wherever possible.

Even Santa has a team of elves! Ask family members, friends, or coworkers for help. Whether it’s wrapping gifts, decorating, or cooking, sharing responsibilities lightens your load and invites others to feel involved.

• Let go of perfection.

Remember, the holidays aren’t about flawless decor or gourmet meals. Focus on creating memories, not meeting impossible standards.

By simplifying your to-do list and letting go of what’s not essential, you’ll create space for the moments that matter most.

Take Back the Holidays

This year, let’s reframe the season. Instead of striving for perfection, aim for presence. Instead of doing more, focus on what brings joy. By grounding yourself and letting go of unnecessary tasks, you can rediscover the magic of the holidays and create a season filled with peace and love.

Wishing you a holiday season filled with warmth, laughter, and ease.

Warmly,

Jackie

P.S. Feeling like the holidays are already overwhelming? Let’s chat! I offer complimentary discovery sessions to help you find your calm and reclaim your joy this season.