When you are thinking about making changes and when that feels scary, it helps to “tell your truth,” identify what are your fears, worries and concerns about making the change you want.
By “telling your truth,” by acknowledging your feelings, your fears and the negative thoughts around change, you are positioning yourself to really “see” what can hold you back from making those changes.
It can feel embarrassing to look at why you’re so afraid of making a change. But it is important to do it, otherwise, you might set yourself up for staying stuck!
It’s like cleaning house.
You have to see the dirt in order to clean it up. If you just dust around, barely looking at what is there, you are going to miss a lot. There will still be a lot of dirt in the house!
To make the decision to actually take the steps to change, first you need to clean your inner house!
Here’s a quick process to “get it all out.”
- Identify what it is you want to change.
For example: Let’s say you want to stop the habit of eating cookies everyday.
- Now, think about making that change.
- Notice how making that change of stopping eating cookies everyday feels to you.
- Write down your feelings.
Perhaps you are afraid you’ll fail.
Maybe you are feeling rebellious-like no one is going to tell you can’t do something!
You may be feeling sad about missing your cookies or the ritual of eating them at a particular time.
Are you angry that you need to stop eating cookies for your health, perhaps?
- Whatever is there-let it out on paper.
These are all real feelings and you don’t want to ignore them.
- Now pick one of those feelings you are having about making changes that really resonate with you at the moment.
- How does it feel in your body?
- Where in your body does it mostly hang out?
- Does it feel tense? Tight? Churning? Is it a spinning feeling?
- Just notice.
- Do you want to keep this feeling or are you willing to let it go?
If you are willing to let it go, there are many tools you can use to release it.
One of my favorite is Tapping! It is also known as EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique.
It’s like acupuncture for the emotions!
I use Nick Ornter’s The Tapping Solution process with myself and my clients and get excellent results.
There are other tools you can use such as “talking” to the feelings.
- Ask those feelings questions such as:
- Is that really true?
- Do I want the cookies to have this much power over me?
- So what if I fail as I’m trying, I can keep remembering why I’m doing this and keep working on it.
- Is it worth it to myself, my health to eat cookies everyday?
- What else can I eat that supports my goal of feeling my best?
- This is something I want for myself, it’s not someone else telling me what to do.
Need more tools to help you make the change you want? I have a toolbox full that I use for myself and with my clients to move forward after first “telling the truth” about what the feelings around change are!
What is it you are afraid of changing?
Are you willing to “tell YOUR truth” to yourself about making changes?
Comment below-would love to hear how this process works for you!